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Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Language as a Gatekeeper

Okay, so you know me. I am a LOVER of vocabulary. I love how the use of extensive vocabulary can be not only beautiful but full of specific meaning that simpler words can't quite capture.

But MAN! Sometimes, people get all into themselves over a discussion and start using highly specialized jargon and extremely elitist language and I all I can think is, "You know what? You're not actually contributing to your meaning or this discussion with this language. All you're doing is cutting out the people who don't understand those words, and 'proving' how superior you are."

I think that is total crap.

I had entered into an awesome and friendly discussion on a friend's FB page about evolution vs creation and if they were contradictory. It was really cool to see a FRIENDLY, open discussion on that subject, which can get really sticky! But ultimately, two guys ended up commandeering the whole discussion with their stilted language and oily attitudes and debates and definition arguments.

I bowed out. Because I don't think that helps anyone. By the time you've reached that point, you are limiting the conversation to two people who already are firmly entrenched in their opinions, and no one else reading is going to learn anything from it because they're using their language as a gatekeeper to filter out anyone not "qualified" to understand.

Well, here's what I think: use specialized language when it best serves your meaning, but in a situation like that? Explain for those who don't get it, if you've got to use those words! Right now is an exciting time where people who failed out of high school can get the equivalent of a college education online for free if they're disciplined enough, because the gatekeeping barriers of knowledge have been breaking down. The internet and social media have their down sides, but ultimately they've become the modern parallel to translating the Bible from Latin to English (William Tyndale is my hero <3) -  people can check it out for themselves instead of relying on the words of those from the ivory towers.

Well-educated people are sharing what they know casually and kindly. Previously uneducated people are learning quickly and providing incredible insight. Teenage girls, plural, are coming out with incredible inventions and discoveries, like (for example) a water wheel that also powers an mp3 player so women who used to have to walk for miles with a pot of water for their home can now carry gallons more AND learn as they go! People are inventing cheap microscopes literally made of paper so doctor's offices in poverty-stricken countries and areas can properly diagnose and treat their patients.

Some people feel threatened by the slew of free-flowing information, as if it somehow might invalidate their very expensive degree-obtained knowledge. I don't think it does. Some things you can only learn and understand by devoting so much time (and money!!!) to learning. But just because you did that doesn't mean you should use the way you speak to everyone else as a way to keep them out of the knowledge you gained. There doesn't need to be a division between the "wonderers" and the "instructors." We're all both.

Getting into an excited conversation with someone else who shares your specialized knowledge and feeling free to communicate with them is one thing. I do that all the time. Since finishing massage school I've been constantly using anatomy terms because they've become second nature to me.

But it is my hope that I will never, EVER, use those terms - that language - to purposely shut out people who haven't learned it. Or to make it seem like I'm somehow better than them. That's bull. I just happened to make a choice that brought me into a situation where I learned all of those things. And I'm happy to explain and share in layman's terms for anyone who cares to hear.

This has been an opinion.

Lauren out.

Saturday, October 26, 2013

Pre-Nano!

NaNoWriMo approaches! This is the year, I'm going to DO it! Here's a pre-nano challenge from tumblr user CassJayTuck:
"PRE-NANO CELEBRATION WEEK STARTS TODAY!

What is pre-nano you ask?

It’s this fun little day-by-day ditty we’re gonna do together to get us pumped for the big Nov 1st, when NaNoWriMo officially begins! The point of these particular tasks are to get you pumped for your project. Nothing technical, like outlining, just fun things that will inspire you and excite you for NaNo!

It’ll start tomorrow, at whatever time you please, and here are your instructions for each day:
Friday- What would the back of your book say if it were published? This can be anything. A synopsis, a “excerpt” you think might be in there, quotes from authors who loved your fantastic little book, etc.

Saturday- Create a playlist. Share a playlist of songs that inspire your story, or that your story inspires. Showcase one of the songs; the one that describes your story best.

Sunday- Make a book cover! Create a book cover for your story, just for the heck of it. Share it with us!
Monday- interview your main character. Choose 5-10 questions and answer them as the character!

Tuesday- A book is a movie in your mind, right? So show us the actors. Show us the actors who look most like your main characters! If you based them off of family, friends, or anyone else, you’re free to showcase them, too.

Wednesday- Interview your antagonist. 5-10 questions, just like before. If your main character IS your antagonist—yes, that’s a thing—then just pick another character.

Thursday- I kid you not, make a collage. Pictures, colors, the actors you chose earlier, song lyrics…do it. "

Friday: "Jaff begins the son of a General and cousin to his worst bully, the Crown Prince. As warfare and exile force him into the kind of confrontations he dreads, Jaff must discover and fulfill his purpose amidst his changing roles as slave in a foreign country, runaway and rebel leader, Seer to an unbelieving people, and key to an ancient prophecy he doesn’t understand."

Tuesday, October 1, 2013

How to Make Going to Church Awesome When You're Awkward/Shy/New/Have A Hard Time Feeling Comfortable

If you're me, all of these are guaranteed to help. If you're you, pick and choose what helps the most!

1.) Be on time.

Being late increases my feelings of awkwardness and makes it more likely I'll miss the Sacrament! It's true there's the issue of where to sit, but I'll get to that. Besides, when I'm on time I get to...

2.) Sing ALL the songs!

Which is possibly one of my favorite parts of worship services in general. I'm always sad if Sunday School or even FHE skip out on singing hymns. I particularly love singing the different parts (bringing the bass line an octave up, of course). Singing hymns automatically brings me into the moment, makes me feel engaged in the experience and a part of the ward.

3.) Share my thoughts.

Not a problem for me because, though I'm shy, I'm also expressive and can't help sharing even when I feel like a total loser on the inside. The key parts for me to remember are:
  
3a.) Don't be hyperaware of what impression I might make.

It's not about sounding smart, spiritual, in control or put-together. It's about how I might build up my own or others' testimonies by asking a question, or sharing a story/thought process.

3b.) Remember that I don't need to give disclaimers as a preface and/or excuse to what I'm saying.

3c.) I gain more when I'm willing to ask questions I don't know the answer to, and when I apply things to ME instead of "exhorting" others to feel or act a certain way.

4.) Unless it's one of those times when I need a little space, don't sit alone.

I have tendencies. I want to sit by and talk to certain people, but I'm too embarrassed to initiate said sitting/talking, so I'll sit alone. I have literally even been talking before class to people I desperately want to sit with, then hovered behind them when we file into class and found a place by myself so I'm not "pushing my company" on them by just sitting with them. And/or I go into my little detached La La Land, which is sometimes lovely and wonderful, and other times lonely and cold.

Instead of watching for the people I feel comfortable with and hoping they'll come take care of ME, I have better experiences when I watch for people whom I can serve and talk/sit next to them. :) this includes my visiting teachees, new members, new leaders, visitors, and other loners like me.

Caveat #1: though I'm expressive and loud, Self, remember that I'm an introvert and sometimes just need to not put out that effort. I'm always ok with others sitting by me, but sometimes I need to not push myself to initiate sitting by others.

Caveat#2: it's okay if I can't quite take off my "mask" around everyone. It's not a false version of myself, just a superficial protective layer (like skin) and that is natural and good. I don't need to fight it.

5.) Take notes.

I clearly process things best, receive more revelation, and remember things better when I write! I particularly like "T-charts" with "Principles learned" on one side and "inspiration" on the other. Designating space for inspiration invites it. I also do best with doodles, lists, self-evaluations (why do I...? How can I...this week?) and fear vs faith checks.

What are fear vs. faith checks you ask? Why I'll tell you! I heard that faith is the opposite of fear so I came up with this process. I admit and list my fears, (such as "I fear I'm not worthwhile" or "I fear I can't achieve everything I need to") and answer with a corresponding statement of faith, often accompanied by scripture or a line from my patriarchal blessing (such as "I have faith that the Lord only makes people who are worthwhile and I have a great deal to contribute to the world, 'remember the worth of souls is great,'" and "I have faith that the Lord will help me set priorities and accomplish what I need to, 'I know that the Lord giveth no commandments unto the children of men save he shall prepare a way for them that they may accomplish the thing he commanded them'").

6.) Come to Church for the Lord!

Often I focus a little too much on why I need Church. I have a much greater experience when I focus on why the Lord needs me and what I can do for Him. When I'm emotionally exhausted, I can come to church for me. But when I have anything available to give, I want to come for the Lord, and gift Him with the focus and worship he deserves. ESPECIALLY by making my worship center around partaking of His Sacrament.

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And that's how, when I actually listen to my own advice (ha), I make coming to church great even though I'm shy and awkward and think too much. :D

Loves!
Lauren

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

The Best Medicine!

Besides actual medicine - which I did find - is a fun-filled day of silliness and laughter with Savanna! Seriously, I don't think anyone else could've picked me up out of that low.

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

I feel so angsty lately! Let me just make a list of a few random things.

1. I misplaced my depression and anxiety medications 5 days ago and have been without.
2. I had to (at least temporarily) quit my job because I've been too sick.
3. I've been super-sick.
4. I hurt my feet really bad and have been literally unable to walk. Lame!
5. Feeling severely unwanted everywhere I go.
6. Money sucks and everything in life demands it.
7. I need to move and don't know where to go.
8. I got a milkshake and it spilled in my car, including on my purse
9. I picked up my purse from the bottom and everything spilled out of it onto the contents of the shake.
10. I got back to my apartment complex and saw that somehow I had dropped a bra on the blacktop and it had been sitting in the parking lot for who knows how long???
11. Finding it hard to feel positive, which sucks because I've always felt positivity is one of my defining traits so it's hard to even feel like I know who I am
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13. A random lady I don't even know decided she hates me because I tried to help out with a project and cut a piece out wrong (or something like that).
14. I have gained so much weight and I feel gross and unattractive.
15. I need my medicine and I hate that I need medicine. :(

Disclaimer I know I have good things going for me and people care about me blah blah blah etc and these feelings are not indicative of what most of my life has been like since last time I updated. It's mostly the lack of medicine, I'm sure. Just at a point where everything about myself and my life and even my relationships with the people I love makes me feel an excruciating sense of shame and embarrassment and self-loathing and I just want to cry all the time. I'll get over it.

Monday, April 22, 2013

My Baking Adventures!

So the reason the other post is called "more baking" is because I wrote this one on 3/6, but apparently it failed to upload...let's try again!

The last six months or so, I've done a lot of baking and taken pictures of it! Apparently moving to Utah does this to me. So I thought...I must needs share these things!

Ta da!

More baking!

These are all recipes from Pinterest :) the Cheez-Its are just from the Goldfish cracker recipe, but cut in squares! SO much faster.